"'The One' is a lie, but it's a lie you can tell yourself. A long-term relationship that's successful is really a myth that two people create together. Every successful long-term relationship is a myth, and myths are built of lies… You meet someone for the first time, and they're not presenting their warts-and-all self to you. They're presenting their idealized self; they're leading with their best. And then eventually you're farting in front of each other; eventually you get to see the person who was behind that facade, and they get to see the person behind… your 'lie self…' What's beautiful about a long-term relationship, and what can be transformative about it, is that I pretend every day that my boyfriend is the lie that I met… and he does the same favor to me. And we, then, are obligated to live up to the lies we told each other about who we are. We are forced to be better people than we actually are."